Episode Details

You're the one checking in, staying up late, choosing your words carefully. You're showing up for someone you love. But who is showing up for you?

In this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Yusuf sits down with psychotherapist and author Yvette Murray to explore the emotional toll that falls on caregivers, partners, and family members when a loved one is going through a mental health decline. Yvette shares practical, grounded tools for building self-awareness, setting boundaries without guilt, and protecting your own well-being, not so you can step away, but so you can truly be there.

About the Guest:

Yvette Murray is a psychotherapist based in Toronto, Canada, and the author of The Mental Health Contagion: Navigating Yourself Through a Loved One's Mental Well-Being Decline. She is a facilitator of the Mental Health First Aid Certification and a mental health advocate and keynote speaker.

Key Takeaways:

• Mental health struggles do not exist in isolation. The emotional symptoms of a loved one's decline, like anxiety, fear, and unpredictability, can quietly begin to affect those around them, a dynamic Yvette calls "the mental health contagion."
• Caregivers often dismiss their own pain by comparing it to what their loved one is going through. But feelings are not a competition. Your experience is valid, no matter how it measures up against someone else's.
• Support does not mean fixing. Sitting beside someone, accepting them as they are in that moment, is often the most powerful thing you can do.
• Caregiver burnout often begins with sleepless nights, shortened patience, and a quiet numbness, not a dramatic breakdown. The earlier you recognize the signs in yourself, the better.
• Yvette's core formula: Awareness + Acknowledgement + Action = Change. You cannot shift what you are not willing to see.
• Boundaries are not abandonment. Knowing what you need to stay psychologically safe is what allows you to show up consistently for the people you love.

Connect With Yvette Murray:

Website: https://mentalhealthtrainer.ca/ 

Book: https://mentalhealthtrainer.ca/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvettemurray/ 

Book available on Audible, in print, and as an ebook wherever books are sold.

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