Episode Details

You've learned about the nervous system, you're trying to co-regulate, you're thinking about felt safety and connection — and the behavior is still happening! WHY?!?! This episode is a troubleshooting guide for exactly that moment. Instead of going back to the drawing board, we're going deeper into the same map: getting curious about regulation, felt safety, connection, and skills to figure out what the nervous system actually needs.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why the question is never "what consequence haven't I tried yet?" — and what to ask instead
• How to troubleshoot each of the four conditions that need to be in place for behavior to be okay: regulation, felt safety, connection, and skills
• Why a child can "know" a skill and still not be able to access it — and what scaffolding that skill actually looks like

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Podcast Episodes

• Ep 198: All Behavior Makes Sense — deep dive into the moment the behavioral impulse fires
• Ep. 9: Building the Tower of Self Regulation — very early episode about trust and what it means for kids with vulnerable nervous systems; link to go in show notes
• Starts at Ep. 161: Felt Safety series — multiple episodes: one on inside, one on outside, one on between

Books

• Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors — specifically Chapter 7 (Nat's story); available in paperback, ebook, and audio wherever books are sold; bulk ordering at RobynGobbel.com/Book
• Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors — pre-order available; publishes September 21; signed copies available through her local bookstore 

Free Resources

• Free Resource Hub — RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub
• Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors — free audio training for professionals; May 4–8, 2026; register at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors

Paid / Member Resources

• The Club resource library — includes the troubleshooting worksheet and the Growing a Child's Owl Brain with Felt Safety packet/workbook (~40 pages) RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
• Professional Immersion Program — students and alumni also have access to the troubleshooting worksheet RobynGobbel.com/Immersion

In-Person Trainings

• Full list at RobynGobbel.com/Training

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/itsnotworking

Teaching Kids about their Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain is one great way to help GROW their owl brain!

And I can teach you exactly how!

Head to RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrain for information and registration.https://robyngobbel.com/training/teachkidsthebrain/

We are waiting to read your application for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals! 

RobynGobbel.com/immersion for every detail about the program you could be curious about! 

The new Guided Journal for Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors hits the shelves on September 21!

AND! If you pre-order TWO or more copies, you can come to Baffling Behaviors LIVE! - a day-long live event for parents and c