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Avoid the “Misery Loves Company” Trap: Protect Your Mindset and Momentum

On a Sunday Growth Notes episode, Frazier warns loan officers to “stay away” from the company called Misery, describing how negativity spreads through coworkers, networks, and online groups when people vent about the market, lenders, clients, appraisers, or agents. He explains that these conversations can feel validating but effectively “recruit” you, as the negativity follows you, reshapes how you view opportunities, and leads to contempt for the people you serve. Using Jeb Blount’s “bucket of crabs” analogy, he says negative people instinctively pull others down, especially when your progress mirrors what they avoid confronting. He urges listeners to be deliberate about what they allow into their heads and who they spend time around, to stop participating in negative conversations, and to choose environments that lift rather than pull them down.

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