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If your ex or the other side is telling you that your divorce lawyer “isn’t doing their job”… don’t panic just yet.

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill break down one of the most common—and manipulative—tactics used during divorce: making you doubt your own attorney.

You’ll learn why the other side often blames your lawyer when they’re feeling pressure, how this tactic is used to gain leverage, and how to tell the difference between strategy and an actual problem with your legal representation.

Because while it can happen… most of the time, it’s not what you think.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

• Why your ex says your lawyer isn’t doing their job
• How “splitting” is used to create doubt and gain leverage
• When this happens most (mediation, proposals, pressure moments)
• Why lack of response can actually be a legal strategy
• How to avoid spiraling and wasting money reacting emotionally
• The real signs your divorce lawyer might actually be the problem
• When to trust the process vs. when to question it

KEY TAKEAWAY:

Just because the other side says your lawyer is the problem…

👉 doesn’t make it true.

In fact, it may mean:

👉 your lawyer is doing something right—and they’re feeling the pressure.

REAL RED FLAGS TO WATCH FOR:

• Your lawyer consistently misses deadlines
• You’re not getting responses within a reasonable timeframe
• Opposing counsel repeatedly calls out real deficiencies
• Judges or mediators are pushing back on your attorney’s position

👉 One comment = noise

👉 A pattern = something to evaluate

RESOURCES:

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