Episode Details

You did everything right. You communicated. You tried. You listened to your gut. And it still ended.

This week Lisa and Heather DeSiena get into the part nobody really talks about — what happens when a relationship ends not because of some dramatic blow-up, but because you were brave enough to be honest with yourself. Heather opens up about being engaged twice in her thirties, walking away from a wedding with eight weeks to go, and the particular kind of loneliness that comes when the life you planned just... doesn't happen that way.

In this episode:

• The sunk cost trap — why "we've invested so much time" is the worst reason to stay
• What Heather's corporate negotiation career taught her about walking away from a bad deal (yes, even at the altar)
• The silent treatment: petty power move or nervous system self-preservation? (Spoiler: Lisa and Heather have both done it, and neither is judging you)
• Why the people you expect to show up when things fall apart are often the first ones to go quiet
• "No deal is better than a bad deal" — and why this might be the most important relationship advice nobody gives you

This one gets real. Like, really real. Both Lisa and Heather show up as full humans in this conversation, which is exactly what makes it worth your hour.

Part 3 is coming — and we're getting into modern dating, the app fatigue spiral, and a live matchmaking situation that you genuinely do not want to miss.

If this episode has you doing some honest reflecting, grab Lisa's free Evaluate Your Relationship workbook at lisamitchell.biz/podcast. No judgment. Just good questions.

Connect with Heather: 

https://www.heatherdesiena.com

https://www.instagram.com/heatherdesiena

https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdesiena

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