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Struggling to get what you want in your divorce? You’re not alone—and the problem may not be what you’re asking for, but how you’re negotiating.

In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill break down one of the most common (and costly) mistakes people make during divorce negotiations—and how to fix it.

Using a real-life example of “Chad and Brenda,” they explain why disorganized settlement proposals, scattered responses, and multiple documents can quickly derail progress, increase stress, and cost you time and money.

You’ll learn how to stay aligned in negotiations, keep proposals clear, and use simple visual tools—like structured documents and balance sheets—to track progress and make smarter decisions.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

• How to negotiate effectively in divorce
• Why responding within the same proposal structure matters
• The biggest mistake people make in settlement negotiations
• How to avoid confusion and “losing track” during back-and-forth offers
• Why using one document or balance sheet can simplify the entire process
• How visual organization can reduce stress and improve outcomes

KEY TAKEAWAY:

Divorce negotiations aren’t just about what you ask for—they’re about how clearly and strategically you communicate.

When everything is organized in one place, you make better decisions, avoid unnecessary conflict, and move the process forward more efficiently.

RESOURCES:

Want a simple way to organize your divorce finances and negotiations?

👉 Grab the Divorce Crash Course (includes a balance sheet template designed to help you stay clear and in control):

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FINAL THOUGHT:

Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. Staying organized, asking the right questions, and using the right tools can make all the difference.

You’ve got this—and we’ve got you.

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