Episode Details

In this episode of Family Troubles, I sit down with renowned family therapist and sociologist Pauline Boss to explore her groundbreaking concept of ambiguous loss and its powerful relevance to family estrangement. We discuss why some of the most painful losses are the hardest to define and how learning to live with that uncertainty can open the door to healing.

We also challenge the cultural myth of closure, offering a more compassionate and empowering way to understand grief, disconnection, and the complexity of family relationships.

Listen for more on:

• What ambiguous loss is and why it’s central to understanding estrangement
• The difference between guilt and shame and why that distinction matters
• Why the idea of “closure” can be misleading (and even harmful)
• How focusing on your own growth can create the conditions for possible reconnection
• The risks of a culture that encourages cutting off relationships in pursuit of happiness
• Why meaning, not resolution, is the key to moving forward

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Guest Links: 

Website: https://www.ambiguousloss.com/

Book: The Myth Of Closure

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