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Description
Anger shows up fast. For a lot of dads, it feels justified in the moment but regrettable right after. It's the emotion we tend to express most. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to unpack what’s behind our emotions and how to respond so we build connection instead of creating distance.
Why This Matters
How a dad handles his emotions shapes how his kids experience him and how they learn to handle emotions themselves.
Key Takeaways
• Anger is “acceptable”: Most dads are not trying to be angry—they are trying to feel in control.
• There’s more to you than anger: Anger is often the only emotion men were trained to express, masking deeper feelings underneath.
Practical Tips for Dads
1. Name it: Identify what you’re actually feeling beneath the anger (hurt, stress, embarrassment, exhaustion).
2. Frame it: Challenge the story you’re telling yourself and replace it with a more accurate, helpful perspective.
3. Aim it: Choose a response that builds connection with your child.
Important Episode Timestamps
[00:00] How Dads Can Handle Anger Without Hurting Their Kids
[00:44] 5 Types of Angry Dads: Which One Are You?
[03:11] Which Anger Style Do You Identify With Most?
[05:37] Why Dads Feel So Confused and Guilty About Their Anger
[06:17] Real Stories: Times We Lost Our Temper as Dads
[09:00] What Happens to Your Kids When You Don't Manage Your Anger
[10:39] Why Anger Is Usually Not the Real Problem for Men
[14:44] The Name, Frame, Aim Framework for Managing Dad Anger
[17:58] How to Apply Name, Frame, Aim to Your Anger Style
APD Pro Move:
When anger rises this week, walk through Name. Frame. Aim. because your kids don’t need a perfect dad, they need a present one who is learning.
All Pro Dad Resources:
The Wisdom in Dealing with Anger
3 Deadly Reactions Dads Must Stop
How to Be a Calm, Cool, and Collected Parent
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