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A while back, I received a message that stopped me in my tracks and perfectly captured why learning how to make confident homeschool decisions can feel so surprisingly hard — even when you already know what you need to do.

“I would love to hear you say, ‘Persephone, you don’t need permission to allow some of your children to attend public school. You don’t have to let old hurts and fears deprive them and yourself of peace. This time is what you need to regroup. You can work on your mental health. It’s okay, at least for now, to consider other ways of getting their education.’ I need permission. Would you please give me permission—even though I don’t need that from you—I feel like I need to hear it from you.”

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The Message That Stopped Me

I sat with those words for a long time.

Not because I was deciding what to tell her. Persephone already knew what she needed to do—she’d practically written my response for me. No, I sat with it because of that remarkable phrase tucked in the middle: “even though I don’t need that from you.”

She already knew what she needed to do — she’d had the authority, wisdom, and right to choose what was best for her family all along. And yet she was still asking.

She Already Knew

But knowing it and feeling it are two very different things.

I hear versions of this all the time from the moms I work with. One mom put it simply and beautifully:

“When I trust my intuition, I feel more connected to my children and more confident in my choices.”

That’s not a small thing — it’s the whole thing. And it’s what becomes available when you stop outsourcing your authority and start leading yourself.