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Back to EpisodesFrom Fear To Connection: Parenting Through Identity Shifts | Heather Hester
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We explore how parents move from shock and fear to connection when a child comes out, and how a simple pause can turn reactivity into repair. Heather Hester shares her path from Chrysalis Mama to leading with her own name, blending advocacy, faith, grief, and grounded love.
• naming fear and grieving the “movie reel” future
• responding with “thank you, I love you”
• using the purposeful pause to regulate and choose
• building deeper parent–child connection through curiosity
• quiet depletion, self care and journaling habits
• protecting marriage under stress and seeking counsel
• faith, family tension and speaking with clarity
• moving from surviving to serving with boundaries
• one small shift this week: practice the pause
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The easiest way to find all of the things that I do is through my website, which is heatherhester.net.
You don’t have to fix everything, y’all. You just have to delay the reaction long enough to choose with intention.
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