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Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Did a bad childhood ruin your chance at love? This film explores the two self-sabotaging traps people with deep self-hatred fall into: pursuing cruel, unavailable partners or rejecting kind ones because their goodness feels "sickening." Discover the third option: acknowledging your "illness" and inviting a supportive partner to help you bear the anxiety of being cared for. #ChildhoodTrauma #Relationships #SelfSabotage #AttachmentStyles #Healing Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/your-two-options-in-love-after-a-bad-childhood/ “Let’s imagine you had a bad childhood. You may hardly remember it; it almost doesn’t matter. The easiest way to assess what once went on is to reflect on how you feel about yourself now. The clearest sign of having had a miserable start is a deep self-hatred. You think you’re ugly. You can’t bear to look in mirrors. You never want to upset anyone and suspect everyone hates you. You feel unacceptable and weird and just – in multiple, non-specific ways – diseased and ‘not right’...” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Leon Moh Cah https://leonmohcah.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

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