Episode Details

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Why did our ancestors marry in days while we take years to "test the waters"? This film explores the fundamental shift from the premodern focus on commitment to our modern obsession with compatibility. Discover why the search for a perfect soulmate often leads to endless dating and why true compatibility isn't something you find—it's something you build through willpower and intention. #Relationships #ModernDating #Commitment Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/why-you-should-get-married-almost-at-once/ “One of the things about our world that would most surprise a magically returned premodern ancestor of ours is how long we take to assess and settle on a spouse. The phenomenon of dating too long before marriage would seem especially strange to them. In almost all societies that have ever existed, the period between first laying eyes on a prospective partner and the moment of committing to them was extremely short. In Sumeria, there was a single audience; in Classical Athens, young men and women might meet three times before arrangements were settled; in the Inca Empire, one might never even have been in the spouse’s presence before the wedding…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Written and Narration: Alain De Botton Animation: Diego Lodeiros https://thebrightagency.com/uk/animation/artists/diego-lodeiros

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

​

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices