Episode Details

What if the love you grew up with wasn't love at all — it was control?

This week, Mehak (@whathemehak) sits down with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, licensed marriage and family therapist, for an honest and frankly, jaw-dropping conversation. Dr. Joy doesn't just talk about narcissism from behind a clipboard — she lived it. From growing up in a Caribbean-American household where perfectionism was survival, to marrying a narcissist without realizing it, to discovering an affair when her daughter was just seven months old.

In this episode:

• The Summer House Amanda & Wes situation — instamacy or betrayal
• What "instamacy" is and why it feels like a soulmate connection
• What narcissism actually looks like in a family system
• Why marriage has historically not benefited women
• What sexual liberation actually looks like vs. performing confidence
• Why modern dating feels so dry and what Dr. Joy required before saying yes to a date

Connect with Dr. Joy:

Website: joyberkheimer.com | Instagram: @glowyourgoddess

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