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Are You Daughtering? The Invisible Work of Adult Daughters with Dr. Allison Alford | Up+Adam

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Dr. Allison Alford is a communication researcher, keynote speaker, and the founder of Daughtering 101 and her debut book Good Daughtering gives a name to something millions of women have been doing their entire lives without ever getting credit for it. Daughtering is the invisible labor, the emotional heavy lifting, the crisis management, the deep breath before you answer the phone and the even deeper one after you hang up. It's the planning, the worrying, the checking in, the smoothing over. It's just Tuesday. But Tuesday has a cost.

In this episode, Adam and Dr. Alford get into the messy middle, the space where you love your family deeply and it's still complicated. They talk about the internal "enoughness" meter that never quite shuts off, why daughters protect their parents' feelings at the expense of their own needs, how siblings can hold completely different memories of the same parent and both be right, and what it actually looks like to reclaim your role without blowing up your relationships. If you have ever felt stretched thin, unseen, or quietly exhausted by the weight of being the one who holds it all together, this episode was made for you.

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