Episode Details

In this first-ever listener question episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, we’re diving into something so many of us quietly carry:

👉 How do you start taking care of yourself when everyone else is used to you taking care of them?

Heather asks a powerful question about navigating self-care as a midlife mom, partner, and eldest daughter—and what it means to shift long-standing patterns of overgiving.

We also explore:

•  Why your nervous system feels “stretched” (the rubber band effect) 
•  How self-care is actually modeling, not selfishness 
•  What it looks like to reclaim time without guilt
•  The power of predictability and communication when setting boundaries 
•  How to begin saying “no” when you’ve never been shown how 

PLUS:
 A second listener question on how to stay grounded when your kids’ emotions feel like a rollercoaster—and what co-regulation actually looks like in real life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

•  How to recognize when you’re over-functioning 
•  Why boundaries feel uncomfortable (and why that’s normal) 
•  Practical ways to “dose” regulation into your daily life 
•  How to stay steady when others are not 

Key Takeaway:
Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others—it allows you to show up safer, steadier, and more present.

Have a question you want answered on the podcast?

📩 Email me: stacy@gobeyou.org