Episode Details

Are you constantly measuring yourself against where you think you "should" be in recovery? Always focused on how far you still have to go instead of how far you've come? You're living in "the gap"—and it's stealing your joy and progress.

Today I'm sharing one of my biggest recovery regrets and the powerful mindset shift that changes everything: Gap vs Gain thinking. This concept from Dr. Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan's book "The Gap and The Gain" transformed how I view progress, and it will transform yours too.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• The difference between gap thinking and gain thinking
• Why focusing on your ideal future state keeps you stuck
• My biggest regret from my recovery journey (and how to avoid it)
• How to measure your progress backwards instead of forwards
• Why you're missing the blessings in your mess
• The one question that changes everything: "What's better today than yesterday?"
• How to start celebrating small wins instead of dismissing them

Ready to stop living in the gap and start living in the gain?

Living in the GAP:

• Constantly measuring yourself against an ideal or "perfect" version
• Focusing on the distance between where you are and where you "should" be
• Creates persistent feelings of falling short
• Always focused on what you LACK

Living in the GAIN:

• Measuring yourself backwards—looking at how far you've traveled from where you started
• Focusing on progress, growth, and what you've accomplished
• Creates satisfaction and momentum
• Focused on what you HAVE

❌ Focusing on how your body doesn't yet look how you want it to
❌ Obsessing over meals you still struggle with instead of celebrating ones you've conquered
❌ Comparing your progress to others who seem to be moving faster
❌ Fixating on still having food thoughts instead of noticing they're less frequent
❌ Constantly thinking about where you're "not yet"
❌ Feeling like you'll never be enough, never do enough

✅ Celebrating foods that once scared you but don't anymore
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