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Back to EpisodesLost Girl No More: How Owning Your Story Becomes the Doorway to Healing | Tamara Fyke
Description
What if the parts of your story you have been hiding are the very parts that hold your healing? This episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life is a conversation about radical self-acceptance, the courage it takes to own your past, and why belonging is not a luxury but a lifeline.
Host Avik sits down with Tamara Fyke, founder of Love in a Big World, multimedia artist, educator, and community builder, to explore what it really means to move from feeling lost to feeling beloved. Through her own journey of divorce, single motherhood, adoption, and an art show that became a declaration of wholeness, Tamara offers something rare: an honest, grounded invitation to stop running from your story and start living from it.
About the Guest:
Tamara Fyke is a creator, educator, artist, and the founder of Love in a Big World, a social-emotional learning organization she has led for over 30 years. Based in Nashville, Tennessee, she holds a Master's in Education from Vanderbilt University's Peabody College. A multimedia artist who sings, writes, and paints, Tamara uses creative expression as a tool for personal healing and community connection. She also operates a personal creative platform called Tamara Creates.
Key Takeaways:
- Owning your story is not the same as being defined by it. It means accepting that your hardships and difficult chapters are not separate from who you are; they are what shaped you. Trying to erase them is a form of self-rejection.
- Healing does not mean moving on. It means radical acceptance: the willingness to say this happened, it mattered, and I am still here. That shift from "I survived it" to "it is part of me" is where real freedom begins.
- Vulnerability is not weakness. It is permission. When Tamara shared her story through art, strangers saw themselves in it. The more honest we are about our own journey, the more we give others courage to be honest about theirs.
- Isolation and shame are a dangerous pair. The more we withdraw, the louder shame speaks. Community, even one safe person, breaks the cycle. We were not built to heal alone.
- Being seen matters more than we admit. A 10-year-old child remembered one thing about Tamara: she always called him by name. That simple act of recognition tells another human they are valued. It costs nothing and changes everything.
- Practical tools for returning to yourself: daily journaling without censorship, a gratitude practice, and intentional body care such as walking, yoga, or breathwork. Not quick fixes. Honest daily commitments to coming back to yourself.
Connect With Tamara:
Love in a Big World: www.loveinabigworld.com
Tamara Creates: www.tamaracreates.com