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Back to Episodes35: How To Work With Your Inner Critic (Without Fighting It)
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Working With Your Inner Critic Through Compassion and Curiosity
Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, shares his journey with childhood and relational trauma, offers a content warning, and invites listeners to the “Resistance” breaking generational trauma, noting his website, email, and one-on-one trauma coaching. He explores the inner critic as a protective part often shaped by a parent’s fearful voice, and describes how fighting it with an angry part creates internal chaos. Using his difficulty starting creative tasks as an example, he explains that avoiding exposure can create a false sense of safety that limits life. He models turning toward the inner critic with curiosity, listening for its origin story (a childhood humiliation episode like spilling crayons and being yelled at), validating the shame, and offering compassionate witnessing to build trust over time. He emphasizes that healing is ongoing but can become smoother with practice.
00:00 Welcome and Safety Note
00:55 Meet Your Inner Critic
02:04 Whose Voice Is It
02:48 My Creative Block Example
06:24 Turn Toward the Critic
09:03 The Crayons Memory
11:31 Compassion Builds Trust
13:41 Working With Parts Over Time
15:57 Final Takeaways and Thanks
Email me: Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com
Website: https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com
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