Episode Details

In Divine Decode, hosted by Archita, Kerisma Vere shares a truth many of us forget: your worth doesn’t rise and fall with productivity, healing progress, or how “together” you look online.

This episode is for high-functioning strivers, people-pleasers, and anyone who feels they must earn rest, love, or belonging. You’ll hear how trauma and conditioning can tie identity to output—and how compassion (not harshness) creates real, sustainable change.

About the Guest:

Kerisma Vere is a holistic wellness coach and author who teaches trauma-informed, compassionate growth. She shares her personal journey of recovery, rebuilding self-relationship, and redefining success.

Episode Chapters:

1. 00:00 — What if worth isn’t earned?
2. 02:10 — When “thriving” still hides a hollow foundation
3. 06:05 — Why self-esteem can collapse after a life change
4. 10:15 — Trauma, survival mode, and chasing external safety
5. 15:40 — The kindness gap: why we’re gentle with others, harsh with ourselves
6. 20:25 — “Doing nothing” as real medicine
7. 24:10 — Compassion vs. accountability: the curiosity lens

Key Takeaways:

1. Notice where your worth is secretly tied to results, roles, or relationships.
2. Practice mirror-talk: “I love you right now,” even mid-imperfection.
3. Replace self-criticism with curiosity: “What made this hard today?”
4. Treat rest as a skill, not a reward you have to earn.
5. Build change from kindness—pressure may move you, but it won’t hold you.

How to Connect With the Guest:

Kerisma Vere's Work:

1. https://towardswellness.ca/
2. Instagram
3. YouTube
4. LinkedIn
5. Book: "The Light Switch Myth: Contemporary Approaches to Creating Lasting Change"
6. Also offers: 60-Day Self-Gratitude Practice guide
7. Available for sliding scale coaching and free guidance

Search: Google "Kerisma Vere" for additional resources

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