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How To Get What You Want - 7. HOW TO FIND ONESELF - Orison Swett Marden (1917)
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Chapter 7: How to Find Oneself – A Summary and Description In How to Find Oneself, the seventh chapter of How To Get What You Want, Orison Swett Marden explores one of the most profound and enduring human questions: “Who am I, really?” With his characteristic inspirational tone, Marden lays out a pathway for readers to uncover their true identity and potential. Published in 1917, this chapter feels surprisingly modern in its insistence on authenticity, self-reflection, and individual purpose.
At its core, this chapter is about the necessity of self-discovery for a meaningful and successful life. Marden asserts that countless people live their entire lives without ever truly knowing who they are. They drift from one job or relationship to another, influenced more by circumstance than conviction. Their ambitions are borrowed, their opinions secondhand. For Marden, this is a tragedy—not just on a personal level, but for society at large. “Every man,” he writes, “has a place in the world, a place that no other soul can fill.”
The chapter opens with a powerful metaphor: life as a great symphony, in which each person has a part to play. However, only those who discover their unique instrument can contribute fully to the music. Others, unaware of their role, create discord or silence. Marden encourages readers to stop living reactively and instead begin a conscious search for their own role, gifts, and inner direction.
The Danger of Imitation
One of the main obstacles to finding oneself, according to Marden, is imitation. Society, he says, rewards conformity. From a young age, we are taught to copy others—to follow paths that are “safe,” “normal,” or “successful” according to external standards. But imitation is the enemy of individuality. “A man who is always aping someone else,” Marden warns, “never finds his own soul.” He challenges the reader to resist the urge to be a second-rate version of someone else and instead strive to become the best possible version of themselves. To do this, one must silence the noise of the outside world long enough to hear their own inner voice. This requires solitude, introspection, and often, courage.
Inner Promptings and Intuition
Marden places a great deal of faith in the power of intuition—what he calls the “inner promptings of the soul.” He argues that each person has a deep, instinctive sense of who they are meant to become. These promptings may be quiet at first, easily drowned out by fear or doubt, but they are persistent. “You will never be happy, never be really successful,” he says, “until you have answered the call of your own nature.” Finding oneself, then, is a matter of learning to trust those instincts. Marden encourages readers to pay attention to the activities that bring them joy, to the subjects that ignite their curiosity, and to the dreams they’ve been too afraid to chase. These are not random interests—they are clues from the deeper self, pointing toward one’s true calling.
The Role of Work and Struggle
Marden does not romanticize self-discovery as a passive or purely meditative process. On the contrary, he emphasizes the importance of action, persistence, and even hardship in shaping one’s identity. He writes that we do not discover ourselves fully formed, but rather forge our character through experience. “Work,” he states, “is the great character-builder, the great revealer of the soul.” A person’s real self is not discovered in moments of ease but in the midst of striving—when they are tested, when they endure. Struggle forces people to draw upon inner resources they didn’t know they had. In this way, challenge and adversity are not setbacks to self-discovery; they are essential to it. This perspective is consistent with Marden’s broader philosophy, which sees effort and ambition as not
Chapter 7: How to Find Oneself – A Summary and Description In How to Find Oneself, the seventh chapter of How To Get What You Want, Orison Swett Marden explores one of the most profound and enduring human questions: “Who am I, really?” With his characteristic inspirational tone, Marden lays out a pathway for readers to uncover their true identity and potential. Published in 1917, this chapter feels surprisingly modern in its insistence on authenticity, self-reflection, and individual purpose.
At its core, this chapter is about the necessity of self-discovery for a meaningful and successful life. Marden asserts that countless people live their entire lives without ever truly knowing who they are. They drift from one job or relationship to another, influenced more by circumstance than conviction. Their ambitions are borrowed, their opinions secondhand. For Marden, this is a tragedy—not just on a personal level, but for society at large. “Every man,” he writes, “has a place in the world, a place that no other soul can fill.”
The chapter opens with a powerful metaphor: life as a great symphony, in which each person has a part to play. However, only those who discover their unique instrument can contribute fully to the music. Others, unaware of their role, create discord or silence. Marden encourages readers to stop living reactively and instead begin a conscious search for their own role, gifts, and inner direction.
The Danger of Imitation
One of the main obstacles to finding oneself, according to Marden, is imitation. Society, he says, rewards conformity. From a young age, we are taught to copy others—to follow paths that are “safe,” “normal,” or “successful” according to external standards. But imitation is the enemy of individuality. “A man who is always aping someone else,” Marden warns, “never finds his own soul.” He challenges the reader to resist the urge to be a second-rate version of someone else and instead strive to become the best possible version of themselves. To do this, one must silence the noise of the outside world long enough to hear their own inner voice. This requires solitude, introspection, and often, courage.
Inner Promptings and Intuition
Marden places a great deal of faith in the power of intuition—what he calls the “inner promptings of the soul.” He argues that each person has a deep, instinctive sense of who they are meant to become. These promptings may be quiet at first, easily drowned out by fear or doubt, but they are persistent. “You will never be happy, never be really successful,” he says, “until you have answered the call of your own nature.” Finding oneself, then, is a matter of learning to trust those instincts. Marden encourages readers to pay attention to the activities that bring them joy, to the subjects that ignite their curiosity, and to the dreams they’ve been too afraid to chase. These are not random interests—they are clues from the deeper self, pointing toward one’s true calling.
The Role of Work and Struggle
Marden does not romanticize self-discovery as a passive or purely meditative process. On the contrary, he emphasizes the importance of action, persistence, and even hardship in shaping one’s identity. He writes that we do not discover ourselves fully formed, but rather forge our character through experience. “Work,” he states, “is the great character-builder, the great revealer of the soul.” A person’s real self is not discovered in moments of ease but in the midst of striving—when they are tested, when they endure. Struggle forces people to draw upon inner resources they didn’t know they had. In this way, challenge and adversity are not setbacks to self-discovery; they are essential to it. This perspective is consistent with Marden’s broader philosophy, which sees effort and ambition as not