Episode Details

🎧 Listen to this episode if:

• You are about to negotiate parenting orders or a parenting plan

• Your coparent is high conflict, manipulative or controlling

• You're worried they will twist agreements or exploit loopholes

• You're preparing for mediation or family court for parenting orders

• You want parenting orders that actually reduce future arguments

Family Violence & Legal Disclaimer

This episode contains discussion of family conflict and family violence which may be distressing for some listeners.If you are experiencing family violence or feel unsafe, please contact 1800 RESPECT (Australia) or your local domestic violence support service.

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Laura and Lynette are discussing general concepts in Australian family law. Every situation is different, and listeners should obtain independent professional guidance about their specific circumstances.

Episode Time Stamps: The Parenting Order Loopholes Your Ex Will Exploit (And How to Close Them)

00:00 High Conflict Co Parenting

01:59 Why Orders Need Clarity

05:10 Changing Orders Is Hard

07:03 Loophole 1 Communication Rules

11:53 Loophole 2 Last Minute Changes

14:12 Loophole 3 Handover Boundaries

20:14 Loophole 4 Extracurricular Conflicts

26:30 Loophole 5 Stop Trash Talking

28:04 High School Choice Traps

29:39 Private School Fee Fights

31:14 School Updates and Access

32:07 Kids Phones and Screen Rules

35:50 Passports and Travel Clauses

40:06 Medical Decisions and Info

44:34 Emergency Contact Requirements

46:27 Rosters Holidays and Ambiguity

50:07 Think About What Ifs

51:12 Wrap Up and Disclaimers

Helpful Resources

• Lifeline (Australia): 13 11 14

• 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732

• Family Court of Australia resources on parenting arrangements

• Parenting communication apps: OurFamilyWizard, AppClose, Talking Parents

Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. 12 Agreements to Include in Parenting Plans

Referenced when discussing the main structure of parenting agreements before talking about loopholes. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6j325rOj96QvV8spPnYsX5?si=td4XlKQZSr6CXfCSm9H_bA

2. Handover Hell

Mentioned during the discussion about pick-up and drop-off conflicts and handover disputes. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=guIkwi1ITJuTOnshvpP9VA

3. Trash Talking

Referenced when discussing parents speaking negatively about the other parent around the children.https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=nEH3splzQxSTBOUikJJHhA

4. Interstate Travel With Children After Separation

Mentioned during the travel and passport boundary discussion. https://open.spotify.com/episode/0auxUU