Episode Details

Let's talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud.

How do you actually last longer in bed?

In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: "Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?"

And honestly? It's a great question.

Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the swinger lifestyle, performance anxiety and stamina are topics that come up way more often than people admit.

So today Adam and Pris get real about:

• Why finishing quickly is incredibly common (and usually nothing to stress about)
• The psychological side of arousal and performance anxiety
• The "point of no return" most men experience
• The truth about how long sex actually lasts for most couples
• Why porn expectations completely distort reality
• How communication with your partner can eliminate embarrassment
• The difference between trying to "perform" and actually connecting

Adam also shares the exact strategies that have worked for him over the years, including:

• The stop-start edging method used by sex therapists
• Learning to control your arousal curve
• Using rhythm changes and position changes to stay in control
• Why oral sex can actually help extend the experience
• Pelvic floor exercises (yes… Kegels for men)
• Breathing techniques that help you relax and last longer

And Pris brings the female perspective most guys never hear — including why many women actually don't want marathon sessions and why confidence, communication, and connection matter far more than performance.

If you've ever worried about lasting long enough… or if you're curious about how experienced lifestyle couples handle these situations… this episode is going to make you feel a whole lot better.

Because the truth is simple:

This isn't the Lifestyle Olympics. Nobody is handing out gold medals.

The real goal is mutual pleasure, connection, and having a damn good time.

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