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I just want you to knowthat if you need love right now,love is here.

Feel it flowing between us.

Whoever needs hope right now—there are plenty of reasons to feel hopeless.

But this message arriving to you right nowis evidence of hope.

Hope is something cultivated between us.It doesn’t just appear.

We make hope happen.

If you’re wondering who is out therewho understands,I want you to know:

there is.

It’s not just that you’re not alone.It’s that many of us are feelingthe same feelings you feel.

Even though it may seem likeyou are the only one inside this lifefeeling this way.

Isolation can make it seem that way.

And for whoever feels likethis life might not be worth it—

I’m here to remind you:

it’s worth it.

But you have to make it worth it.

My mother Caron said something once:the point is, you must design a point for yourself.

Life is worth it.But that doesn’t mean everythingis going to work out.

It’s part of the human conditionthat everything doesn’t work out.

I’m not saying life is worth itbecause things will go your way.

Some things will.Some things won’t.

That is the common thread between us.

It’s not all going to work out.

But the things that do—those need to be cherished.

Celebrated.

The rising of the sun.The first birds of the morning.

Winter citrus on the vine.

Petting your cat.

Being warm enough.

Coffee in your cup.

Waking up can be hardwhen everything around usfeels chaotic.

You must look for beautyeverywhere.

We can bring our own meaningto everything that is happening.

We have to bring our own meaning.

Borrowed meaning about this lifedoesn’t work.

I wish someone had told us that sooner.

You have to make your own meaningjust like you have to make a point.

We think a lot about the pastand how we cannot change it.

But we can find a new contextthat makes it meaningful now.

I’m not one of those peoplewho believes everything happens for a reason.

I don’t.

I believe in mistakes.

I don’t think you chose your trauma.Or that you deserved it.Or bargained for it.Or that it was karma.

And I don’t believe you agreed to itin some previous incarnation.

I know some people do.

I don’t.

I do believe in an intelligent universe.

But a universe that scripts sufferingfeels more manipulative than intelligent.

I like to believe our soulsare far too wiseto choose to be victimsand perpetratorsover and over again.

How’s that working out for us?

What I do believeis that power-over structuresare doing their bestto remove our capacityto remember that we have choice.

It’s a potent strategy.

If we believe we don’t have a choice,we stop looking for one.

And I want to validate something:

You have every reasonto feel miserable,depressed,or hopeless.

This isn’t misery loving company.

It’s simply honest.

I feel the temptation myselfbecause of what’s happening around us.

The wars.

The files.

The behaviors.

The administrations.

The commentary.

The price of cheese.

Really.

And yet—

right now,if you’re reading this,

I want to remind youthat the curation of your consciousnessis yours to do.

And truly,

that is the work.

To curate your consciousness.

To move out of the default settingsof personality and circumstanceand decide:

From now on,I will curate my consciousness.

To do that,we need intentional chemistry.

Even with chaos around you,your consciousnessis still yours to navigate.

Until we realize that,

life feels like it’s happening to usinstead of through us.

Curating consciousnessis a choiceday by day.

A choice to repair the narrativethat has been