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The Good Girl Syndrome: What the Church Got Wrong About Women | Kate Bartley Pt. 1
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What if the exhaustion you're carrying isn't a faith problem — it's a pattern problem?
In this episode, I sit down with Kate Bartley — somatic coach, former physical therapist, former minister, cancer survivor, and author of The Good Girl RX — for one of the most honest conversations I've had on this podcast yet. And friend, we went there.
We're talking about the Good Girl Syndrome — that deeply ingrained pattern of performing, over-serving, and self-abandoning that so many of us have dressed up in the name of faith. We unpack why the church has often reinforced this pattern without even realizing it, what it's actually costing women in their bodies and their lives, and why certainty can feel safer than the freedom Jesus actually died to give us.
We also dig into Proverbs 31 — and why the woman in that chapter wasn't the quiet, kitchen-bound ideal we've been handed. She was running a wholesale operation. And nobody talks about that.
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation. Part 2 drops next week.
In this episode we cover:
- The Good Girl pattern and why it thrives in church culture
- How external validation disconnects us from the Holy Spirit's leadership
- The martyr syndrome — and why serving from depletion isn't Christlike
- What your body is trying to tell you when you're stretched too thin
- Why certainty feels safe — and what it might be costing you
Connect with Kate Bartley: KateBartley.com
Mentioned in this episode: The Good Girl RX by Kate Bartley
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