Episode Details
Back to EpisodesThe “Prove Yourself” Trap After Maternity Leave (And How to Stop Overcompensating)
Description
Returning to work after maternity leave can come with an unspoken pressure many women don’t realise they’re carrying - the need to prove that nothing has changed.
In this episode of the Working Mumma Podcast, Carina sits down with Rachel Debeck, former lawyer, tech CEO, and mum of three, to unpack the “prove yourself” trap that so many working mothers fall into when they return to work.
Rachel shares her honest experience of coming back to a senior role when her first baby was just seven months old, the internal pressure to overcompensate, and the moment she received feedback that changed how she showed up as both a leader and a role model for other women.
We explore why pretending it’s “easy” can actually make things harder for working mums and what it looks like to lead, work, and parent more honestly.
This conversation is for any mum who has returned to work feeling like she has to be exactly the same as she was before, or better, while quietly carrying the mental load, guilt, and exhaustion that no one sees.
In this episode, we talk about:
- The invisible pressure to “prove yourself” after maternity leave, especially in senior roles
- Why overcompensating can lead to burnout, and how to recognise when you’re doing it
- Why working mums don’t need perfect role models, they need real ones
- How each return to work can feel different (and why that’s normal)
- The daycare sickness season and why it’s often the point many women consider stepping away from their careers
- How to think about your career as non‑linear with seasons of acceleration and steadiness
- Why motherhood doesn’t end ambition, it often reshapes it into something more intentional and meaningful
Episode links
Connect with Rachel Debeck on LinkedIn.
Follow Working Mumma on Instagram @workingmummacommunity or LinkedIn