Episode Details

Why do we say things we don’t mean in the heat of conflict? Why does connection disappear the moment we feel criticized, dismissed, or misunderstood?

In this episode, Diane sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan, author of The Road Less Triggered, to explore what’s really happening when we get “triggered” in our closest relationships.

Dr. Flanagan explains how conflict shifts us from connection mode into protection mode and introduces the powerful practice of “regulate, then relate,” a concept rooted in nervous system science. Together, they discuss defensiveness, emotional reactivity, compassion, and how learning to notice when your heart is closing can change the way you show up in marriage, parenting, and everyday interactions.

Links Discussed in This Episode |

• Checkout the podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.
• Book: Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
• Book: What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
• Dr. Flanagan's Resource: Front Row Dads
• Connect with Dr. Kelly Flanagan:
• Website
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Book: The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice―The Self-Help Guide to Conflict-Proof Communication, Healthy Relationships & the Belonging You Seek

About Dr. Flanagan |

Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an author, speaker, coach, and clinical psychologist with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships. His thought leadership has been featured in The 5 Love Languages, the TODAY show, and SUCCESS magazine. Kelly's proprietary frameworks will take your relationships to a level that traditional communication strategies can't touch. He is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and they have three children--one adulting, and two at home in their small town outside of Chicago.

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