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If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken.

Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenopause and after having children. But most couples aren't taught how intimacy changes during this stage of life — so they assume something is wrong with the relationship.

In this episode, we talk about what's actually happening with desire, arousal, and intimacy after kids and during perimenopause — and how to stop fumbling in the dark.

You'll learn:

• Why libido and arousal change after kids and in perimenopause
• The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire
• How "Gold Dates" vs. "Data Dates" can reduce pressure around sex
• How to use Pleasure Mapping to rebuild intimacy without performance
• The biggest mistake couples make when trying to "fix" low desire
• How expanding your definition of sex increases connection and pleasure

If you're navigating low libido, mismatched desire, painful sex, or emotional distance after kids — this episode will help you understand what’s happening and what to do next.

And if you're ready to move from understanding to practice, you can grab the Colour Me Curious workshop replay for $27 (limited-time).

Inside the workshop, you'll get:

• Guided Pleasure Mapping exercises
• Communication scripts for talking about sex without blame
• Pre-date tools to reduce anxiety
• A structured framework for rebuilding intimacy after kids and during perimenopause

Instead of guessing, you'll have a clear starting point.

Grab Colour Me Curious here: Colour Me Curious

Your sex life doesn't need more pressure.
It needs better information — and a safer way to explore together.