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People-pleasing built my career and almost destroyed my life. I spent 30 years performing as someone I made up to keep people comfortable, and the day I finally stopped was the day everything got easier, richer, and way more fun.

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I grew up learning to read a room before I could read a book. If I made my dad laugh, the night went a different way. If I was sweet enough to a family member, I got to spend the night at a house with actual running water. People-pleasing wasn't a personality flaw. It was a survival strategy. And I carried it into every business, every relationship, and every room I walked into for the next three decades. Until one Instagram post at 48 accidentally blew the whole thing open.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• The childhood survival skill that became a $100M business strategy (and the bill that came with it)
• Why I paid a voice coach in Laurel Canyon to put a wine cork in my mouth for months (and what he finally told me)
• The two completely different versions of myself I performed depending on who was in the room
• What I told Zak on his couch the night I decided to stop performing (and the one confession I was sure would end it)
• The post I almost didn't publish at 48 that got 20x the response of everything else I'd been doing
• Why I thought I'd already beaten people-pleasing (and the moment at 48 I realized I was still doing it in a completely different disguise)
• What happened when my beauty content went head to head with my business content (and why the results made me rethink everything)

If you're a woman who's been calibrating herself for every room she walks into and wondering why success still feels like it belongs to someone else, this one's for you.

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