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Ethical non-monogamy, couple swapping, and radical vulnerability—Nikole shares how chasing pleasure, navigating jealousy, and choosing tenderness keeps her love life evolving. 

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📈 STATS | 41-year-old non-monogamish pansexual cis woman, she/her pronouns, divorced, engaged with no plans of marrying, life coach, adult content creator, from Orange County, into: orgasms, dating rich, and vulnerability.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Opening up a relationship and trusting evolving desires

03:02 Flirting with others together, first swaps, and emotional whiplash

06:20 Processing after sex: timing, communication, and body-led reflections

10:14 Tenderness, emotional safety, and navigating hard conversations

17:38 Choosing emotionally mature partners and raising relationship standards

20:05 Being “obsessed with sex,” casual and connected intimacy, and desire styles

22:07 First full swap experience: pleasure, triggers, and mismatched experiences

27:22 Mentorship in non-monogamy and learning from experienced couples

28:13 Play parties, hiring professionals, and expanding into couple play

30:09 Jealousy or compersion? Watching partners with others

32:15 Soft swaps, boundaries, and pleasure-focused group play

34:01 Giving feedback during sex and discovering new pathways to orgasm

37:10 Being fully in your pleasure, seduction, and healing through desire

42:17 OnlyFans intimacy, emotional connection, and real vs performative eroticism

46:21 Switching between Dom/sub energy and meeting different desires

47:20 New turn-ons: oral fixation, sensation play, and expanding pleasure

53:12 Balancing non-monogamy, family, and personal capacity

59:13 Writing, creativity, and reconnecting to raw truth

1:02:04 Choosing presence over distraction and deepening lived experience

1:04:02 Everyday seduction: spreading love through attention, kindness, and car

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