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Faith Over Fear - Why "Being Nice" is Killing You: Biblical Help for People Pleasing
Description
Do you lie awake replaying conversations… wishing you’d said no instead of yes?
Do you feel responsible for everyone else’s happiness and so bogged down by other's expectations that you've lost your sense of self? Are your relationships filled with more takers than givers? Do friendships tend to bring you more anxiety than joy?
If so, Jennifer Slattery's conversation with author and podcast host Jennifer Renee Watson will encourage you.
In this episode of Faith Over Fear, Jennifer Slattery sits down with author and speaker Jennifer Renee Watson to unpack the emotional roots of people-pleasing, codependency, and the deep fear of not being “enough” or "doing enough." Together, they explore how trauma, anxiety, and unhealthy relationship patterns can shape our identity—and how God leads us toward healing, clarity, and freedom.
Jennifer Watson shares her personal story of growing up in instability, navigating ministry pressures, and learning—one fumbling step at a time—how to set boundaries, recognize harmful patterns, and rediscover her voice. This conversation offers practical encouragement for anyone struggling with approval-seeking, emotional exhaustion, relational confusion, or the pressure to always keep others happy.
You’ll learn why people-pleasing often grows from survival patterns, how resentment can signal deeper wounds, and why healing takes time, support, and truth. Most importantly, you’ll be reminded that your worth isn’t defined by others’ approval—but by God’s steady love and presence.
This episode is for you if you:
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Struggle to say no without guilt
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Feel drained by relationships or expectations
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Carry anxiety about disappointing others
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Want healthier boundaries rooted in faith
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Long to rediscover your identity and confidence in Christ
Resource referenced: What If You're Doing Better Than You Think?: Finding Courage and Confidence When Life Gets Messy
Key truth to hold onto:
[God] is your constant source of stability; he abundantly provides safety and great wisdom (Isaiah 33:6, NET)
Next step: Pay attention to your yeses and nos this week. Notice what drives them—and invite God into the healing process.
Discussion/Reflective Questions:
- When do you feel the strongest pressure to please others—and what fears tend to drive that response?
- How has your past (family, church, relationships, or trauma) shaped your current boundaries or lack of them?
- What lies about your identity or worth have fueled anxiety or people-pleasing in your life?
- Where might resentment or emotional exhaustion be signaling a need for healthier limits?
- What would it look like to anchor your sense of safety and worth in God rather than others’ approval?
- What is one small, practical step you can take this week to honor your emotional and spiritual health (a boundary, a conversation, a pause before saying yes)?
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