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Q&A: My Eight-Year-Old Turns Aggressive and I Don’t Know Why
Description
He’s perfect at school. Polite. Award-winning. Well behaved.
Then he comes home… and explodes.
If your 7–8-year-old is melting down over TV, pushing boundaries, or even getting physical when you say no — this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.
We unpack the hidden developmental shifts happening in boys around this age, why “just turn it off” can feel impossible for them, and practical strategies to reduce the blow-ups — without constant battles.
If you’re exhausted, confused, or questioning yourself… this one’s for you.
KEY POINTS
- Why boys around 7–8 experience a surge in emotional intensity (adrenarche)
- The surprising reason “good at school” can mean explosions at home
- Why turning off TV feels bigger than it looks
- How to build emotional regulation before age 10
- A powerful way to teach healthy masculinity early
- Practical tools: transitions, routines, signals, and collaborative problem-solving
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“A strong, healthy man doesn’t use his strength to dominate. He uses it to help the people around him feel safer and stronger.”
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
- Pre-plan transitions before TV ends — decide together what happens next.
- Use a neutral signal (timer, lights, countdown) to reduce confrontation.
- Have calm conversations later, not in the heat of the moment.
- Teach emotional strength explicitly — especially for boys.
- Stay consistent. Regulation takes repetition, not one perfect talk.
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