Episode Details

This one's for you if dating has started to feel like a hamster wheel of painful experiences… and you keep thinking: I've done so much work on myself—why is this still so hard?

In this live session, I coach Quinn through:

• the loop of type vs. essence-based preferences
• the fear of being "too much" in dating
• what to do when uncertainty triggers a full-body spiral
• how to tell if your "picker is broken"… or if you've been trained to assume you're the problem
• self-compassion as a real tool (not a pep talk) to re-regulate and come back home to yourself
• how to update your EBPs so you're not dating someone you have to parent or beg for affection
• community + dating after a big move

By the end, Quinn says it perfectly: this session felt like closing a bunch of tabs in her brain and finally having the system run again.

If you've ever been in the mindset of "it's fate or it's me," I want you to hear this.

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