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Back to EpisodesThe Let Go Game - ACIM
Published 3 months ago
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- Personal Flow and Attachment Soo Kim expressed a feeling of being on the "verge of something". Jevon Perra commented that Soo Kim was doing great with "not attaching to any outcome and just flowing non-judgmentally," which Jevon Perra admitted they struggle with, though they are aware of their attachments. They agreed that the unawareness of one's "craziness" is what causes trouble.
- Judgment and Sincerity Jevon Perra stated that they constantly have judgments, including about people who are "happy nice," like their Mormon friends, where they don't perceive sincerity. Soo Kim related to the judgment of insincerity, citing it as a major reason for a "rupture with Leila," because they judged her actions as insincere and fake. Jevon Perra agreed that having the data to be "right about my perceptions" is not the ultimate goal because their perceptions and best-case scenarios do not lead to ultimate happiness or peace.
- Contentment as the Highest State Jevon Perra asserted that the pursuit of achievement and accomplishment does not bring unending happiness and bliss, noting that past moments of having everything only brought momentary satisfaction. They suggested that the "other game" is to simply be content, which they considered "probably the highest state," because if one is content, their apparent energetic state does not matter as much.
- Illusion of the Singular Self and Happiness Set Point Soo Kim discussed the "illusion of the singular self," stating that even within a personality construct, there are multiple aspects, and the matter is which one one attaches to. Jevon Perra referenced a psychology book, The How of Happy, which suggests that most of one's happiness is set by genetics and other propensities, but about 30% comes from choices made, specifically one's speech and thoughts.
- The Meaning of Seriousness When asked where they fall on the happiness scale, Jevon Perra described Soo Kim as a "princess warrior type," serious about what is real and true, which Jevon Perra relates to. Jevon Perra defined being serious as meaning "life and death," explaining that to be serious is to stop playing, believe something will kill you, and stop being loose, unguarded, and oneself. They also related seriousness to suffering, where one stops "trusting God" and takes matters into their own hands, leading to suffering.
- The Enneagram Type Three Racket Jevon Perra shared that as an Enneagram Type Three, they are a performer who struggles to know what is truly them, losing themselves in their performances because they prioritize achievement. They explained that a "racket" is a game played to hide the "real business," drawing an analogy to a butcher shop fronting an alcohol operation during prohibition. Jevon Perra stated that their current "racket" involves engaging in human suffering to be relatable to others, but they get lost in the pain of the character they are playing.
- Connection versus Attachment Soo Kim questioned the sincerity of relating to people without "getting sucked in," calling it a form of insincerity and faking. Jevon Perra made a distinction between trying to relate and trying to connect, emphasizing that needing to connect is also an attachment. Jevon Perra described extreme attachment as the "needy" individual whose outward show of love is experienced as taking, not giving, because they are trying to "vampire" or suck life from the other.
- The Origin of Sincerity Discussing sincerity, Jevon Perra provided the etymology of the word, explaining that it is Latin for "without wax," originating from the practice of repairing broken marble statues with wax and dust. To be sincere means not hiding brokenness or what