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Is it ADHD or does everyone spend it like Beckham?

New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this one is a proper funny, real-life reflection of what it’s like being a couple living with ADHD. No scripts, no pretending we’ve got it all together… just an honest chat that somehow turns into Amazon parcels, condensed milk, and a popcorn machine scandal.

Listen on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnS

Watch on YouTube (this episode):
https://youtu.be/ohwOVdtrWLw

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What we cover in this episode:

• We start with Adam’s strong feelings about the episode title (he hates it… which obviously makes it funnier).
• Quick catch-up on the week: Adam is still on Spacegoods, plus he’s added Lions Mane supplements and reckons he’s felt a big difference… or is it placebo? (We discuss.)
• Also: Adam’s unhealthy relationship with condensed milk. Yes, it’s a thing.

Main topic: impulsive spending

• Amazon parcels turning up like it’s Christmas every day.
• Adam’s dream car… the 15-year-old Fiat Doblo. The kids are not impressed.
• Business expenses and “dodgy dealings” to buy a popcorn machine… which Adam then broke and had to replace the night before the party. Stress levels: biblical.
• Adam’s official announcement: do not use eBay.
• Is it all the dopamine of shiny new things? Is impulsivity massive in ADHD?
• Does research lead to the right purchase… or is the final decision always impulsive anyway?
• Is it exciting or does it drive Donna mad? (Spoiler: both.)
• Temu chat, bargain dopamine hits, and flat pack drama.
• Should Adam be allowed to online shop unsupervised? Should you buy brand new? Should “future me will figure it out” be banned as a lifestyle?
• Out of sight, out of mind… especially with credit cards.
• Should Adam set up an ADHD hobby swap shop? (Because the hobby graveyard is real.)
• Obsessing over purchases: scouring Facebook Marketplace for days and weeks like it’s a second job.
• The shame cycle (massive), and the comedown after the excitement wears off.
• Does Donna feel betrayed… or is she an enabler? And will any bad purchases ever be returned? (Don’t be silly.)
• Adam and Donna make a deal. Also: does anyone want to buy a popcorn machine?
• The other side: money worries, relationship stress, and whether it’s all “fun” when the bills land.
• Is Donna the responsible one… or does she spend just as much, just on boring family stuff?
• Has one-click buying made everyone worse? Does anyone wait more than one day for delivery now?
• Does social media make impulsive spending worse? Is it emotional spending? Should Adam buy a tent? (This becomes a real question.)
• Does it affect our relationship? We get properly honest about the highs and lows.

5 Minute Moans:

• Adam not putting baby wipes away properly (why are they always left out like a crime scene?)
• Donna painting the baby’s nails (and Adam’s reaction is exactly what you’d expect)

We finish with listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories about spending — and we’re so grateful for them. Keep them coming, because nothing makes you feel more normal than hearing someone else also bought something ridiculous at 1am.

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