Episode Details

At first glance, it looked like a postcard moment: two moms cuddled up on the couch, a newborn wrapped in blankets, love absolutely everywhere. And that’s exactly how my conversation with Reme and Jess began.

Their five-year-old daughter Jade was off at school, while three-week-old Jude soaked up quiet newborn time with her moms. But behind this picture-perfect scene is a story full of intention, resilience, and the many different ways queer families grow.

Reme and Jess have been together for twelve years, and it didn’t take long for them to know that parenthood was part of their future. When it came time to start their family, Jess—being older—carried first. Using an app to connect with a local sperm donor, they conceived quickly, enjoyed a smooth pregnancy, and welcomed Jade via a straightforward birth-centre birth. Easy. Empowering. Dreamy.

So naturally, when it was time for baby number two, they expected more of the same—especially with Reme being younger.

Reality had other plans.

This time, conception took longer, pregnancy was far tougher, and the peaceful home birth they’d envisioned didn’t happen. And yet—Reme wouldn’t change a single thing. Because Jude arrived exactly how she needed to, bringing with her a depth of gratitude, love, and perspective that reshaped their family in the most beautiful way.

This episode is a tender, honest look at queer conception journeys, shifting expectations, and holding joy alongside challenge. It’s a reminder that there is no “right” way to grow a family—only your way.

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