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When Grief Takes Everything: Vanessa May on Surviving Compounded Loss | EP 474
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What happens when grief doesn't just visit once—but keeps coming back? In this deeply honest conversation, Vanessa May shares how she navigated losing her son Harry, then her husband Anthony, and father during the pandemic, all while battling COVID and later a cancer diagnosis.
Vanessa doesn't sugarcoat. She doesn't spiritually bypass. She tells the truth about what it's like when the ground keeps getting ripped out from under you—and how she's found her way forward anyway.
In this episode, we explore:
- The unique pain of compounded grief—losing a child and a spouse
- How trauma lives in the body and can manifest as illness
- Why "resilience" can feel like pressure instead of praise
- Soul planning, earth school, and making meaning from loss
- The loneliness of widowhood in the middle years
- How Vanessa still feels Harry and Anthony guiding her
- The six women featured in her new book and what they have in common
- Finding the balance between spiritual hope and raw human grief
About Vanessa May:
Vanessa is a holistic grief coach, certified grief educator, nutritional therapist, and author of three books including Love Untethered: How to Live When Your Child Dies and her newest release, When Grief Takes Everything: A Survival Guide to Devastating Loss.
Connect with Vanessa:
- Website: VanessaMay.co.uk
- Instagram: @may.wellbeing.griefsupport
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The International Association for Near-Death Studies or IANDS will host its annual conference at the Hyatt Regency in Bellevue. The event features an all-star lineup of keynotes like Proof of Heaven Author Eben Alexander, MD, and Dying to Be Me Author Anita Moorjani. I Early bird registration rates are available through July 15.
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The International Association for Near-Death Studies or IANDS will host its annual conference at the Hyatt Regency in Bellevue. The event features an all-star lineup of keynotes like Proof of Heaven Author Eben Alexander, MD, and Dying to Be Me Author Anita Moorjani. I Early bird registration rates are available through July 15.
Visit IANDS.org to register
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