Episode Details

It’s happening younger than ever. Girls as young as five are worrying about their weight, and by age nine the insecurities can hit hard. In this episode we unpack a listener’s heartbreaking question: “Is my daughter pretty enough?” - and share the practical steps that protect kids from body image pain without making it worse.

KEY POINTS

• Body image worries now start between ages 5–9 for many girls
• Why reassurance backfires & curiosity helps
• The 3-step approach: Curious → Validate → Reframe
• Teach function over appearance to build positive body appreciation
• The strongest predictor: how parents talk about their own bodies
• What mothers model → daughters absorb (instantly & powerfully)

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Don’t rush in with reassurance - get curious, not furious.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Misconnection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson
• The Misconnection Summit
• Enough - A video resource for teen girls

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

1. Get Curious (Not Furious): Ask where comments came from before correcting.
2. Validate the Feelings: “That must have felt really crummy. I’m glad you told me.”
3. Reframe: Shift to body function (what it does, not how it looks).
4. Model Neutral-to-Positive Self Talk: No dieting talk, no body bashing, no opting out of photos.
5. Build Gratitude for the Body: Surfing, running, hugging- celebrate capability.

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