Episode Details

There's ONE word that's absolutely destroying your progress in recovery. One word that's keeping you stuck, paralyzed, and living in a constant state of shame and disappointment.

That word? Should.

And sis, you need to stop shoulding all over yourself. Like, right now. Today.

Because every time you tell yourself what you "should" be doing, what you "should" have accomplished by now, where you "should" be in your recovery—you're not motivating yourself. You're actually making it HARDER to take action.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the science behind why "should" keeps you stuck, where all these "shoulds" come from in the first place, and giving you 5 powerful reframes you can start using TODAY to break free from the shame cycle and actually move forward.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• The ONE word you need to stop using if you want to become the best version of yourself
• Where your "shoulds" come from (diet culture, perfectionism, family expectations, trauma, comparison)
• The science: Why "should" is the language of obligation, not empowerment
• Research from Stanford showing how "should" keeps your brain stuck in self-criticism instead of problem-solving
• How "shoulding" shows up specifically in eating disorder recovery
• Lindsey's personal story: "I should be over this by now" (like a bad boyfriend from 3 months ago)
• 5 powerful reframes to replace your "shoulds" with choice and compassion
• Why you're not behind, not failing, and not broken
• The edge: How to stop using "should" as an excuse to stay stuck
• A tangible homework assignment to catch yourself "shoulding" and reframe it

If you've ever thought "I should eat this," "I should start today," "I should be further along," or "I should be over this by now"—this episode is your wake-up call.

Stop shoulding. Start choosing. Become who you're BECOMING, not who you "should" be.

💛 "Every time you tell yourself what you 'should' be doing, what you 'should' have accomplished by now, where you 'should' be in your recovery—you're not motivating yourself. You're actually making it HARDER to take action."

💛 "Your 'shoulds' didn't just appear out of nowhere. They were planted. They were taught. They were absorbed from every message you've ever received about who you're supposed to be."

💛 "These 'shoulds' create this distortion in your mind that where you current