Episode Details

Ready to stop white-knuckling through "I'm enough" affirmations and start doing the deeper work? Learn more about the FIERCE Sisterhood - a community of divorced empty nesters who are willing to sit in discomfort, pull the thread on "not enough" thoughts, and create physiological safety while building authentic transformation. Email SISTERHOOD to julie@juliesteedcoaching.com for information.

About This Episode

In this unscripted episode, Julie breaks from her usual format to share a personal discovery about insecurity and perfectionism. After noticing herself spinning over seemingly simple issues, she realized she was struggling with feelings of not being "enough"—particularly around launching the FIERCE Sisterhood.

This vulnerability mirrors what many women in the Sisterhood are experiencing, as reflected in their daily FIERCE Accelerator sheets where thoughts like "I'm not good enough," "I'm not worthy," and "I'm not capable" keep showing up.

What You'll Learn

The Gap Between Knowing and Believing

• Why we can logically know we're enough while our bodies don't quite believe it yet
• How this creates white-knuckling and willpower instead of true transformation
• The difference between positive thinking and deep, authentic growth

Three Essential Steps to Transform "Not Enough" Thoughts

1. Explore with Curiosity - Stop long enough to investigate the discomfort, sit with the emotions, and ask what the thought needs from you
2. Pull the Thread - Trace back where these beliefs originated—ex-spouse dynamics, societal standards, past experiences—and see how they've woven through your life
3. Create Physiological Safety - Use breath and affirmation to remind your nervous system that it's safe to believe you're enough, even when old patterns resurface

Why This Work Matters Julie explains how flipping a negative thought to a positive one is just the starting point. Real transformation requires investigating the underlying sources, feeling the emotions, and integrating new beliefs into your identity so they become automatic.

Perfect For

Women who recognize they have "not enough" thoughts lurking beneath the surface, those struggling with perfectionism, and anyone ready to do the deeper work beyond positive thinking.

LIKE WHAT YOU HEAR & WANT TO GO DEEPER?

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✓ Uncover the story that has been running (and potentially ruining) your life since your divorce. 

✓ Feel the shift from powerless to powerful through a live exercise that shows you how to get back behind the wheel of your own life.

✓ Discover the specific gap standing between where you are now and where you want to be. You will leave the workshop knowing exactly what to do to close that gap. 

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About Julie:

After 23 years of marriage and a betrayal she never saw coming, Julie  found herself starting over from scratch. No roadmap. No guarantee it would be okay. Just the decision that her life was worth rebuilding.

Julie is now a Certified Life Coach, a Health and Wellness Coach, and founder of the FIERCE Sisterhood — a transformative community for divorced women ready to rebuild their lives from the inside out. She hosts the Better Because of Divorce podcast because she believes divorced women deserve more than surface-level positivity. They deserve real, lasting transformation.

She knows what it costs to start over. And she knows what's possible on the other side.

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