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Back to EpisodesWhen Love Hurts: Domestic Violence and Trauma Bonding in Adulthood with Coach Liz
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Episode Overview
In this deeply personal episode, Coach Liz shares her lived experience with domestic violence and trauma bonding, tracing how early exposure to emotional and relational instability shaped her adult relationships. She explains why survivors often confuse intensity, fear, and inconsistency with love, and why leaving abusive relationships is far more complex than outsiders understand.
This conversation expands the definition of domestic violence beyond physical harm to include emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial abuse. It offers understanding without judgment and truth without shame.
What You Will Learn
- Why trauma bonding keeps survivors emotionally attached to unsafe partners
- How unhealed childhood trauma trains the nervous system to accept chaos as normal
- Why strength is not the issue, but unresolved trauma is
- How domestic violence can show up emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and financially
- What recovery has taught Coach Liz about deserving love that does not hurt
Key Takeaways
- Trauma bonding is a survival response, not a character flaw
- Intensity and fear are often mistaken for love when safety was absent early on
- Staying does not mean weakness. It means the nervous system learned familiarity, not peace
- Healing begins when the body learns what safety actually feels like
- You deserve relationships rooted in consistency, care, and respect
Reflection Question
Where have you mistaken intensity or fear for love because it felt familiar?
Call to Action
If this episode resonates with you and you are ready to begin your recovery journey, consider starting with Rebirth of Her. This is a safe, private, and spiritually grounded program designed specifically for survivors of domestic violence and trauma bonding.
If a group setting feels like too much right now, you are invited to begin with Level 1, a gentle, trauma-informed starting place that allows you to learn, reflect, and rebuild emotional safety at your own pace.
Your recovery matters. Your safety matters. Your story matters.
Closing Reminder
We are recovering one breath at a time. Give yourself grace and stay fearless. Bye for now.
Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath. Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility. I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast.
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