Episode Details

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What do you do when the person you love no longer wants to be with you, and anger, fear or past behaviour has broken trust?

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks directly to those facing one of the hardest moments in a relationship: separation caused by anger issues. With honesty and realism, he explains why rebuilding trust takes time, and outlines a clear, step-by-step path forward for those who are genuinely committed to change.

This isn’t about quick fixes or saying the right words. It’s about doing the work that actually matters.

What you’ll learn in this episode

1. Why rebuilding a relationship after separation is possible, but cannot be rushed
2. The first thing you must address before any reconciliation can happen
3. Why taking full responsibility for the impact of your anger is essential
4. When (and when not) to re-establish contact with your partner
5. How to show real, lasting change in ways your partner can trust
6. What it takes to build a healthier relationship together moving forward

The five steps covered in the episode:

1. Deal with your anger, abuse, or violence issues
2. Accept responsibility for the impact your behaviour has had
3. Re-establish contact only when appropriate
4. Show consistent evidence of real change
5. Work on creating a different relationship together

Need support with this?

If you want help managing your anger or guidance on rebuilding your relationship:

1. Watch the free training on breaking the anger cycle
2. Book a free 30-minute Anger Assessment Call
3. Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

All options are available at angersecrets.com.

Rebuilding a relationship after separation isn’t easy — but with commitment, patience and the right support, it can be done.

And remember:

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself.