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If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, the people you feel drawn to are not random. They are often deeply connected to your subconscious comfort zone, nervous system conditioning, and unhealed emotional wounds.

In this video, Thais Gibson explains the four most common archetypes Fearful Avoidants are attracted to and exactly what each attraction reveals about where you are in your healing journey and what needs to shift to move toward secure attachment.

🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY

Fearful Avoidants often want emotionally healthy, secure relationships, yet repeatedly find themselves pulled toward partners who feel unsafe, unavailable, or overwhelming. Why?

Because the subconscious mind is wired for familiarity, not happiness.

In this episode, you’ll learn how subconscious conditioning and nervous system dysregulation drive attraction patterns, why chaos can feel like chemistry, and how different attachment archetypes mirror specific inner wounds. Thais walks through four relationship archetypes, including other Fearful Avoidants, Dismissive Avoidants, Anxious partners, and narcissistic types, so you can clearly identify your patterns and begin healing them at the root.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why attraction is driven by subconscious safety, not conscious desire
• How your “type” reflects how you treat yourself emotionally
• The role of nervous system regulation in breaking trauma bonds
• Why Fearful Avoidants are drawn to chaos, distance, pressure, or control
• How each relationship archetype points to a specific healing focus
• What to work on to stop repeating painful relationship cycles
• How subconscious healing + somatic work create real change

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – You May Be Attracted to the Wrong People
01:00 – We Are Attracted to Those Aligned With Our Subconscious Comfort Zone
02:36 – Archetype 1: The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
05:17 – The Power of Nervous System Regulation and Subconscious Healing Work
06:36 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo
06:55 – Archetype 2: The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
08:09 – Archetype 3: The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style
08:55 – Archetype 4: Narcissists

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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