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367. Why You Keep Self-Abandoning (and How to Finally Come Home to Yourself) | Kate Eckman
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Kate Eckman breaks down why so many high-achieving people feel disconnected despite doing everything "right." She explains how self-abandonment begins early in life as a way to earn love, safety, and approval—and how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overachievement are survival responses, not strengths. Drawing from her own healing journey, Kate reveals why emotional invalidation teaches us to doubt our instincts, silence our truth, and perform instead of feel. She shares why choosing yourself often feels lonely, how solitude exposes what distraction hides, and why telling the truth—kindly and clearly—is the foundation of real self-love. This isn't about motivation or positive thinking; it's about stopping self-betrayal, releasing old identities, and coming home to yourself.
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In this episode you will:
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Understand how self-abandonment forms and shapes relationships, success, and identity
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Learn why people-pleasing and perfectionism are trauma responses, not personality traits
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Discover why being alone feels uncomfortable—and how it leads to self-trust
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Identify when it's time to let go of an identity that no longer fits
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Redefine success as living in truth instead of performing for approval
Connect with Kate:
Listen to her podcast: https://www.kateeckman.tv/podcast
Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kateeckman/
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