Episode Details

In this Mind Over Masculinity episode, host Avik talks with executive and leadership coach Nora Bouchard about the hidden metrics men get judged on at work. The conversation breaks down silent rules after a promotion. Like being “fearless” staying emotionally shut down and acting like you never need help. Nora explains how real leadership performance is built through relationships self-awareness and healthy support systems. Plus practical tools for handling workplace fear without spiraling.

About the Guest  :

Nora Bouchard is an executive and leadership coach with three decades of experience coaching emerging leaders through C-suite executives across industries including tech finance and healthcare. She is the author of Hidden Metrics and May Day. Asking for Help in Times of Need.

Key Takeaways  :

• “Hidden metrics” for men in leadership often include acting fearless showing no emotion and never needing help. Even when it hurts mental health and performance.

• After a promotion your peer group changes. Your “team” becomes leadership peers. Your former teammates become your “squad” that you now lead.

• Loyalty shifts upward. You can support your squad without knee-jerk defending them. Listen first. Resolve issues strategically with peers.

• Asking for help is a power move in executive leadership. Find a mentor sponsor or peer to accelerate leadership success after promotion.

• High performance stops being about doing more tasks. It becomes about building relationships trust and decision velocity across the organization.

• Leadership includes emotional labor. New managers get surprised by how much time they spend handling emotions hopes fears and conflict.

• When fear hits at work the first tool is awareness. The second is physical movement. Stand up walk breathe deeper and reset posture.

• Use “adult timeout” tactics to break fear loops. Movement changes state fast which improves emotional regulation and leadership clarity.

• Men are often conditioned to chase the lone hero narrative. Real success is a team effort. Support systems reduce burnout risk.

• Growth requires mirrors. A coach spouse boss or trusted person can ask the right question. Like “What are you afraid of” and change everything.

How Listeners Can Connect With Nora  

• Email: nora@mnorabouchard.com

• Website and Book info: https://hidden-metrics.com/

• Mayday! Asking for Help in Times of Need is listed under her maiden name - M. Nora Klaver. Available on Amazon.

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