Episode Details

In this Mind Over Masculinity episode, host Sayan sits down with Jonathon Aslay, one of America's leading midlife self-love and relationship coaches, to dismantle the idea that men have to "tough it out" alone. This is not a fluffy self-care chat. It is a straight-talking deep dive into grief, identity collapse, addiction, online numbing habits, and how rebuilding from the inside out actually makes men stronger in relationships, business and life.

Jonathon traces his journey from divorce, career loss and financial collapse to the devastating death of his son. He explains how years of personal development, therapy and spiritual work built the emotional scaffolding that helped him survive the unthinkable. Together, they unpack why self-love is not weakness but emotional infrastructure, how negative online echo chambers are quietly eroding men's self-worth, and why vulnerability from an empowered place is one of the most attractive traits a man can embody.

If you are tired of red-pill noise and quick-fix hacks, this conversation cuts through. It is about emotional survival, real accountability and choosing better inputs for your mind every single day.

About the Guest :

Jonathon Aslay is a midlife self-love and relationship coach focused on helping men and women rebuild from the inside out. After losing his marriage, career, wealth and later his son, Jonathon turned to personal development, therapy and spiritual practices to reconstruct his identity. He is the author of What the Heck is Self-Love, Anyway? and hosts multiple YouTube channels where he talks bluntly about self-worth, emotional health and modern dating for midlife adults. His work centers on practical self-love, emotional responsibility and moving out of victim mindset into growth.

Key Takeaways on Self-Love, Masculinity and Men’s Mental Health  

• Self-love is not spa days. It is the stack of "self" skills: self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-discipline that keep you standing when life collapses.

• Most men have an "emotional 6-year-old" running the show. Real self-love is learning to hold that inner child with the same compassion you would give an actual 6-year-old.

• Vulnerability is not dumping or staying stuck in victim mode. It becomes attractive and powerful when it is paired with a desire to grow, take responsibility and ask "how do I move forward from here?"

• Numbing out with addictions, shallow online content or hostile echo chambers will not fix anything. The inputs you feed your mind directly shape your self-worth and how you show up in relationships.

• Simple daily practices matter. Meditation, affirmations, movement, time in nature, gratitude and surrounding yourself with uplifting content can rewire old stories of "I am not good enough."

• Social connection is a self-love practice. Things like dance classes give men safe reps in confidence, body awareness and approaching others without performance pressure.

• Asking for help is not failure. Jonathon's turning point came when he was willing to move back in with his parents and say "I cannot do this alone," then commit to the long game of rebuilding.

How to Connect with Jonathon Aslay  :

Listeners can connect with Jonathon by searching his full name "Jonathon Aslay