Episode Details

Trauma therapist and bestselling author Aundi Kolber join us to name the pattern so many of us live in: trying harder when our nervous system is begging for gentleness. Aundi shares the moment a mentor asked her a question that changed everything—Have you ever tried softer?—and why real healing is “thousands of tiny decisions” that slowly move us toward safety, connection, and joy.

This conversation is full of hope you can actually use: cues of safety, the power of repair (for us and our kids), and a beautiful practice Aundi calls beauty hunting—learning to notice what restores you, especially outdoors. You’ll hear why play matters, how our early stories shape attachment and even our view of God, and why compassion is not weakness.

Explore Aundi’s work at her site aundikolber.com and find her writing on Substack ⁠aundikolber.substack.com⁠.

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