Episode Details

On this episode of Mind Over Masculinity, host Sana sits down with migrant shame coach and martial arts mentor Kamil Hejmanowski to unpack the quiet pressure most men never name out loud. They break down how shame shows up in migrant men as overworking, people pleasing, comparison, addiction, emotional shutdown and silent burnout. Kamil walks through his WORTH process, a step by step method that helps men wake up to shame, release stored emotions, rewrite their internal story, set boundaries and finally live from a place of peace instead of constant proving.

Through his own lived experience of migration from Poland to the UK, bullying, drugs, prison, fatherhood, therapy and rebuilding his life through sport and coaching, Kamil shows that shame does not have to be a life sentence. This conversation is direct, honest and built for men who are tired of performing strength and are finally ready to feel enough in their own skin.

 About The Guest :
Kamil Hejmanowski is a migrant shame coach, martial arts club owner, father of three and NLP master practitioner based in the UK. After migrating from Poland as a teenager, he faced racism, bullying, addiction, prison and deep feelings of unworthiness. Through karate, university study, psychotherapy and years of personal development, he transformed his story and now helps migrant men understand and dissolve shame, set boundaries and build self worth. He shares tools and education across his website, social media and content as the self described Number 1 Migrant Shame Coach.

 Key Takeaways :

• Shame in migrant men often hides behind the fear of failure, especially around providing for family and proving that migration was “worth it”.

• Cultural conditioning and childhood experiences, including harsh parenting, comparison between siblings and cousins and being told you are not enough, can seed shame very early.

• Migration multiplies pressure. New language, racism, isolation and economic stress can trigger coping patterns like overworking, substance use, fighting and constant self comparison.

• Kamil’s WORTH process guides men to wake up to shame, open old wounds safely, release stored emotions, rewrite their inner story, take back their power with boundaries and finally honour their worth through daily habits.

• Therapy and emotional education helped Kamil learn how to cry, feel and express instead of numbing with alcohol. He highlights how many men hide every emotion behind a bottle.

• Shame can drive both “high performance” and self destruction at the same time. The same pain that fuels trophies and promotions can also fuel addiction, violence and burnout.

• Boundaries are non negotiable for healing. Men must stop people pleasing, protect their time and energy and accept that not everyone will approve of their choices.

• True healing is not about becoming someone else. It is about accepting that you are already enough, choosing different environments and relationships and building a future from self respect, not self hate.

 How Listeners Can Connect With Kamil Hejmanowski :
Listeners can connect with Kamil and explore his work here:

• Website: https://kamilhejmanowski.com/

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