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Lusting After the Fantasy Version of You
Published 2 months, 2 weeks ago
Description
Explains the difference between genuine love and idealization, where someone falls for a fantasy version of a person rather than their authentic self. It identifies several psychological signs of being idealized, such as:
Falling "fast but not deep."
Offering surface-level validation rather than meaningful support.
Praising traits that are convenient or agreeable, rather than the full person.
The passage highlights that this dynamic can cause the idealized individual to suppress their true needs and feelings, leading to a sense of being “adored but not understood.”
It also notes that personal growth can disrupt the relationship, as it challenges the illusion the admirer relies on. Ultimately, the text emphasizes that authentic connection requires honesty and presence rather than performance.
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Falling "fast but not deep."
Offering surface-level validation rather than meaningful support.
Praising traits that are convenient or agreeable, rather than the full person.
The passage highlights that this dynamic can cause the idealized individual to suppress their true needs and feelings, leading to a sense of being “adored but not understood.”
It also notes that personal growth can disrupt the relationship, as it challenges the illusion the admirer relies on. Ultimately, the text emphasizes that authentic connection requires honesty and presence rather than performance.
You can listen and download our episodes for free on more than 10 different platforms:
https://linktr.ee/life_notes
Produced by:
https://www.podcaistudio.com/