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Swinging, STI testing breakthroughs, and oxytocin-fueled desire—Robert shares how ethical non-monogamy reshaped his life and inspired him to build sex-positive telehealth care with Shameless Care.

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📈 STATS | 40s straight cis man, ethically non-monogamous, in a committed long-term relationship, founder & CEO of Shameless Care (use code LOVER), from Illinois, into: all things sensual, flirting with new people, passionate connections in swinger and/or poly spaces, sex-positive healthcare, sexual health, and helping people overcome shame, misinformation, and barriers to sexual wellness.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Safety is sexy, ethical non-monogamy, and early shame around sex

05:02 Flirting as foreplay, swinger-club dynamics, and the power of reciprocal energy

10:11 90s sex ed, porn memories, and first-touch confusion

14:17 Discovering swinging and realizing casual sex isn’t “dangerous”

19:24 Jealousy, self-improvement through ENM, and explicit verbal consent

23:40 How explicitness builds sexy confidence

27:01 The gonorrhea scare that exposed massive STI-testing gaps and sparked Shameless Care

32:29 Throat-herpes, medical dismissal, and the fight to get proper swabs

38:20 Oral-only gonorrhea, common missed infections, and why thorough panels matter

42:07 At-home testing realities and why sex-positive telehealth needs real doctors

44:33 Doxy-PEP, ED meds, and the science behind oxytocin for bonding and presence

49:54 Nasal and sublingual oxytocin, subtle shifts in energy, and enhancing date-night connection

54:24 Topical sildenafil cream, increased blood flow, and treating sex like playful research

59:15 No subscriptions, personalized care, patient advocacy, and how to r