Episode Details

On this episode of Mind Over Masculinity, host Sana sits down with Martin Lucas, inventor of deterministic AI and founder of Gap in the Matrix, to unpack what really shapes men. Is masculinity biology, culture, or just repeated code running in the background. Martin explains how conditioning, family, geography and capitalism shape how men think, earn, love and lead. He breaks down why men are often more aggressive in negotiations, why so many struggle with emotional language, and how assumptions quietly sabotage decisions in boardrooms and relationships.
This is a direct conversation for men, women and leaders who want to understand men's mental health, emotional intelligence and gender roles without sugar coating.

About the Guest  :

Martin Lucas is the inventor of deterministic AI and founder of Gap in the Matrix. He has spent over a decade decoding human decision making, psychology and behaviour for brands, markets and individuals. Martin now focuses on helping people understand how conditioning, culture and emotion drive their choices so they can lead, love and work with more clarity and responsibility. He writes about the brain, emotions and decisions on Medium and shares insights with professionals on LinkedIn.

Key Takeaways:

• Masculinity is shaped far more by social environment and conditioning than by biology. We copy what men around us do, from emotional restraint to aggression in negotiations and leadership.

• Biology influences tendencies like physical aggression. Yet cultural scripts decide whether men are taught to be open, shut down, nurturing, dominant or emotionally distant in relationships and work.

• Many men are not emotionally unavailable by design. They were never given the skills. The brain then builds stories and defenses like “I just don’t do emotions” to avoid discomfort.

• Generational shifts show more emotional expression and more anxiety. More talking about feelings does not automatically mean deeper self awareness or emotional responsibility.

• Money and roles can quietly poison relationships when income is treated as the main measure of value. Healthy partnership focuses on shared contribution, not who brings in more cash.

• Real growth is not “mind versus masculinity”. It is learning your superpower, building emotional intelligence around it and dropping lazy assumptions about gender. That is where men’s mental health actually changes.

• The goal is not to fix men. It is to move from rigid labels to whole humans who can question conditioning, ask better questions and choose new behaviour.

Connect with Martin Lucas  :

Listeners can connect with Martin and dive deeper into his work here

• LinkedIn: Martin Lucas (CIO at Gap and the Matrix)

• Medium: Martin Lucas

• Website: https://www.gapinthematrix.com/

• Medium. For articles on the brain, deci